Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts
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Friday, January 25, 2019

What is (Haiz) or menstruation - Frequently Asked Questions

What is (Haiz) or menstruation - Frequently Asked Questions

Q1. What is (Haiz) or menstruation?

A1. When a female becomes a teenager, the blood that comes out from her private part (vagina) on a fixed time basis is known as menstruation or period (Haiz). A menstruating woman is not considered dirty or sinful, as is the case in some other religions and cultures. It is natural and normal for every girl from about nine to sixteen years of age to start menstruating. Another word for menstruation is “period”. A female usually has a period every 28 days (once a month), but this cycle often varies from about 25 to 35 days, women have different patterns. A menstrual period usually lasts between three and six days, but may be a day or two longer. When one starts having periods they are often rather irregular. One may have one and then not have another for a few months. After a while they will probably settle down. Use a diary to mark down the days when one has one’s period over the next six months and one may begin to see a pattern. A female should be able to work out the average length of time between periods, which will help her to know when to expect them. Once a female starts menstruating she is physically capable of having a baby. The cycle is repeated over and over again until about 54 years of age.

Q2. At what age does menstruation begin?
A2. Menstruation or period begins when you are at least nine years old. It ends when a woman is about fifty-five years old.

Q3. What happens just before a period?
A3. You may feel tense and irritable just before a period. Some girls feel tired and are unable to concentrate. Some feel weepy and depressed. Some girls get angry. It is normal to feel tired or even dizzy when your period is just starting or is at its heaviest. This is known as “PMS” or “Pre-menstrual syndrome”.

Q4. Are you sick when you have a period?
A4. Definitely not. It is normal for all females to have them. Some girls get abdominal cramps, or a headache, or feel a little bloated at the beginning of a period, but this is perfectly normal and will disappear in a day or two. Period pains can be worse if you are worried and tense. Some girls try to hold on to the blood flow because they are worried about soiling their clothes.

Q5. How can you prevent your clothes from getting soiled when you have your periods?
A5. There are special soft, absorbent pads (sanitary towels), which fit on the inside of your panties, called sanitary pads. They absorb the blood. You can also use tampons, which are inserted into the vagina. If your blood flow is very heavy, you may find that a little blood leaks around the edges, so it can help to wear darker colored pants, which won’t show the blood. Sometimes you will need to change your pads two or three times a day, but if it is heavy you will have to change every couple of hours.

Q6. What can you do if you have period pains?
A6. The best thing to do is relax, preferably in a warm place. If you are at home, curling up under the duvet with a hot water bottle and relaxing for a while can help. Some schools have a sick room to sit in or you can take a painkiller to help you relax.

Q7. What are the colors of menstruation?
A7. A period generally begins and ends with a slight, brownish discharge. In between, the blood becomes redder and the flow heavier. There are six colors of menstruation: black, red, green, yellow, brown and clayey. The white discharge is not menstruation.

Q8. How long does menstruation last?
A8. The time period for menstruation is at least three days and three nights, meaning a full seventy-two hours. The maximum is ten days and ten nights. Periods generally start light and are heavier for just a couple of days.

Q9. What is (Istihaza)?
A9. (Istihaza) is the blood that is discharged due to some illness.

Q10. If the blood is discharged before the age of nine years, is it regarded as Haiz or not?
A10. No. It is called Istihaza.

Q11. What happens if the blood stops just less than seventy-two hours?
A11. Then, it is not a period but Istihaza.

Q12. What happens if the blood flows for more than ten days?
A12. If this is the first instance that blood is discharged, then for the ten days it is regarded as menstruation and the rest it is Istihaza.

Q13. What happens in a case if the usual time for menstruation is five days, but the blood is discharged for ten days? Would all these days be regarded as menstruation or not?
A13. All the days are recognized as menstruation.

Q14. What happens in a case if the usual time for menstruation is five days, but the blood is discharged for twelve days? Would all these days be regarded as menstruation or not?
A14. The first five days is menstruation and the other seven is Istihaza.

Q15. What happens if there is no regular pattern in the menstrual cycle, for example, sometimes the blood is discharged for four days and sometimes for five days?
A15. Whatever amount of days was the last period, this will be counted on this occasion. It is not necessary that blood continue to be discharged all the time. If it starts and stops it is still recognized as menstruation.

Q16. Can you miss your period?
A16. Yes. You can also miss your period if you lose a lot of weight, are very stressed (for example, before exams), when traveling or during a family crisis, or if you are regularly involved in strenuous physical activity (for example, if you are an athlete) or hardworking.

Q17. What must you do with the pads that you used?
A17. You must dispose of it immediately and not store it under the bed or in the cupboard. Wrap them up well in paper and put them in the nearest bin. Only flush pads in the toilet as a last resort. Try to avoid this as it can clog the system.

Q18. What other changes take place in a girl’s body?
A18. In the year or two before your periods start, you will have become aware of changes in your body. You will become more aware of your body. At the start of puberty, a girl often starts to grow very suddenly, both in height and weight. Her face becomes fuller, and her voice a little lower. Her breasts start to develop and pubic and underarm hair starts to grow. She will find that she perspires much more than she used to. If you are having any worries about periods or changes that are happening to your body, it helps if there is someone to talk to. Talk to your mother, an older sister, aunt or madressa teacher. You should not be ashamed or embarrassed to consult with them.

Sunday, January 10, 2016

THE RIGHTS & DUTIES OF THE HUSBAND TOWARDS HIS WIFE IN ISLAM

THE RIGHTS & DUTIES OF THE HUSBAND TOWARDS HIS WIFE IN ISLAM

Just as Almighty Allah has made some duties of the wife towards the husband, he has also made some duties of the husband towards his wife. To fulfill these duties is an obligation and means of great blessing.

Almighty Allah says in the Holy Quran, There are rights of the husband upon the wife just as there are rights of the wife upon the husband, with kindness.

The Holy Prophet (Sallahu Aliahi Wasalam) said, the best amongst you are those who are kind towards their wives. (Mishkaat Shareef Vol 2 Page 280)

It is also in the Hadith: No believing man should harbor any hatred and ill feeling for any believing women, for if any of hers actions seem bad, then there are also those things in her which are good. (Mishkaat Vol 2 page 280)

This Hadith means, that if a wife has some shortcomings in her, then it does mean that everything about her is not good. She definitely has some good qualities as well.

The husband should thus praise her good qualities and try to rectify her shortcomings.

1. It is an obligation upon every husband, to provide for her food, clothes, house and all other provisions. One must always think that she is a servant of Allah in my Nikah, and she has left her parents and everything else for me. She should thus be properly taken care of.

2. It is also necessary for the husband to fulfill his right as the husband towards his wife, in the sense of satisfying her womanly desires, so that she does not turn towards sin and adultery. This, thus means that the husband should not stay away from his wife for lengthy periods of time.

3. A man should not separate his bed from his wife without reason. Yes, if she acts contrary to his command or against the Islamic law, then he may do so. This however, should not be to cause her pain and torment, but to allow her to realise her wrong doing.

4.It is in the books of Law, that a husband may warn his wife (punish her) by separating his bed etc. if:

(a). She refuses to dress neatly and beautify herself for him

(b). Her husband desires her and she refuses without valid

(c). She does not take Ghusl after intimacy or after her menstrual periods etc.

(d). She leaves Namaaz or any other fardh Ibaadat without valid reason.

5. A man should never look at another woman with bad intention and should never praise the beauty of other women to his wife, and no wife should praise the beauty of another man to her husband.

6. The husband must correct the mistakes of his wife and if she does not accept, then he may be strict.

7. When going on a journey, the husband should inform his wife, and meet her with great love and comfort her before he leaves on a journey.

8. When the wife cooks him a meal, he should not criticize what she has made, but should eat it to please her. If there is something that he does not like he should tell her with great love and not mock or hurt her feelings.

9. If she becomes ill, then it is necessary for him to care and comfort her, so that she feels that he loves and cares for her.

10. He should have full faith and trust in his wife and she should have the same faith and trust in him. Both should not put false accusations on one another, as this leads to the breakup of the marriage and is a sinful act. The husband should also always be clean and dress well when with his wife. He should not embarrass her or shout and threaten her in the presence of others.

11. The husband should not shout at and scold his wife for petty issues and neither should the wife pick on him over petty issues.

12. If there is any dispute between the husband and the wife, they should try to resolve this by themselves with understanding, and if it is not resolved, then it should be put before the elders for advice. A man should never be hasty in giving Talaaq to his wife. He should let his anger subside before he makes any irrational decisions and then think with a calm mind. The Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said, amongst those things which are Halaal, the one most disliked by Allah is Talaaq. (Abu Dawood Vol 1 page 303)

13. If a person has more than one wife (not more than four), then he must be just with all of them and care for them equally. To take care of one and neglect the others is a sin. 

Also Read

The Rights & Duties Of The Wife Towards Her Husband


The Rights & Duties Of The Husband Towards His Wife In Islam

Which Women Are Permissible to Marry in Islam?

Which Women Are Not Permissible to Marry?

A Perfect Family Man

Aims of Nikah: In Light of the Quran

Nikah and Benefits of Nikah in Islam
THE RIGHTS & DUTIES OF THE WIFE TOWARDS HER HUSBAND

THE RIGHTS & DUTIES OF THE WIFE TOWARDS HER HUSBAND

Once a girl becomes an adult, it is necessary for the parents to arrange for her marriage. When arranging for her marriage, be sure to choose a husband for her, who is a Sunni Sahihul Aqida and not and non-mazhab. Find someone who is a religious person, and one who is pious. Remember that Nikah is the Sunnah of the Prophet and a means of gaining piety and being protected from evil.

Almighty Allah has made man the Guardian over the wife. It is for this reason, that it is compulsory upon the wife to be obedient to her husband. Remember, that to please the husband is a great Ibaadat, and to disrespect him and be disobedient to him is a sin. The status of the husband is very exalted.

The Holy Prophet (Sallahu Aliahi Wasalam) said, If I had to command sajdah (prostration) for anyone but Allah, then I would have commanded the women to make sajdah to their husbands. (Mishkaat Shareef Vol.2 Pg.281)

The Holy Prophet (Sallahu Aliahi Wasalam) also said, That woman who passes away from this world in this way, that her husband was pleased with her, then she will enter into Jannat.

1. The wife should not leave the home to go anywhere without the permission of her husband.

 2. In the absence of the husband, the wife should not give any belongings of her husband to any person. In his absence, it is an obligation upon her to protect all his belongings, and without his permission, she should not allow any person into the home.

3. A women should never do any such action that will cause the husband to become upset.

4. To care and educate the children in the absence of the husband is also a great duty for her.

5. It is necessary for her to keep herself pure and clean at all times, always dressing neatly and looking presentable, so that her husband may be pleased when he looks at her.

6. It is necessary for every wife to understand the manner and habits of her husband, in other words, to know his likes and dislikes and not to act contrary to these.

7. It is from her duties not to become angry when he says anything to her and not to argue or backtalk with him. Rather she should comfort and calm him if he is upset.

8. She should not be demanding and should try her best to live in accordance with his income and not beyond his means. She should not be wasteful with his wealth.

9. As long as her in laws are alive, it is necessary for her to respect them. Never disappoint your husband’s parents.

Also Read

The Rights & Duties Of The Wife Towards Her Husband


The Rights & Duties Of The Husband Towards His Wife In Islam

Which Women Are Permissible to Marry in Islam?

Which Women Are Not Permissible to Marry?

A Perfect Family Man

Aims of Nikah: In Light of the Quran

Nikah and Benefits of Nikah in Islam

Saturday, February 22, 2014

Shaadi ki Pehli Raat Ki Dua, Aadab aur Nafil Namaz

Shaadi ki Pehli Raat Ki Dua, Aadab aur Nafil Namaz

Shaadi (Marriage) ki pahli raath ke aadaab
(Shaadi ki Dua - Dua for Bridegroom - Wedding Night Dua - Marriage Dua)

Jab dulha dulhan ke kamre me jaye to sabse pahle salaam kare aur tanhai ho to bahtar ye hai ki sabse pahle dulha aur dulhan wuzoo karle aur fir 2 rakat nafl namaz shukrana padhe.

Namaz ki Niyyat : Niyyat ki maine 2 rakat namaz nafl shukrane ki waste ALLAH ta'ala ke Mooh mera kaaba shareef ke taraf Allahu Akbar.

Fir hamesha jaise namaz padhte ho waise hi namaz padhe aur is tarah duwa kareaye 
Allahumma inni as aluka min khaireh wa khairem jabalth alayhi wa auzoo beka min sharreh wa sharrem jabalth alayhi.
Tarjuma: Aye ALLAH mai tujhse iski (apni biwi ki) bhalai aur khairo barkat mangta hu aur uski fitari aadato ki bhalai aur teri panah chahta hu iski burai aur fitari aadato ki buraise.(Abu Dawood : jild-2,page-150, Hasne Hasin : page-164)

ALLAH tera shukra aur ehsaan hai ki tune hame ye din dikhaya aur hame is khushi wa ne'amat se nawaza aur hame apne HABIB sallallaho alayhi wasallam ki sunnat par amal karne ki taufiq ata farmayi. 

Aye ALLAH hamari is khushi ko hamesha isi tarah kayam rakh. hame mel-milap pyaar mohabbat ke saath zindagi guzarne ki taufiqata farma.ae Rabbe Qadir hame nek farmabardar aulad ata farma. AAMEEN

(Gunyatuttalebin : jild-5,page-115)

Also Read: Shaadi Mein Rukawat Dur Karne Ki Dua (Wazifa)

IN HINDI

शादी की पहली रात के आदाब

जब दूल्हा दुल्हन के कमरे में जाये तो सबसे पहले सलाम करे और तन्हाई हो  तो बेहतर ये हैं की सबसे पहले दूल्हा और दुल्हन वुज़ू करले और फिर 2 रकत नफ़्ल नमाज़ शुक्राना पढ़े।

नमाज़ की नियत : निय्यत की मैंने २ रकत नमाज़ नफिल शुकराना, वास्ते अल्लाह ताला के, मुँह मेरा तरफ काबा शरीफ के - अल्लाह हु अकबर कहते हुए नमाज़ शुरू करें।

फिर हमेशा जैसे नमाज़ पढ़ते हो वैसे ही नमाज़ पढ़े और इस तरह दुआ करे ।

अल्लाहुम्मा इन्नी अस अलुका मीन खैरह व खैरम जबालत अलैहि व ओज़ू बेका मीन शाररेह व शर्र्म जबालत अलैहि  

तर्जुमा : ए अल्लाह मैं तुझसे इसकी (अपनी बीवी की) भलाई और खैरो बरकत मांगता हूँ और उसकी फ़ितरी आदतों की भलाई और तेरी  पनाह चाहता हूँ इसकी बुराई और फ़ितरी आदतों की बुराई से । (Abu Dawood : jild-2,page-150, Hasne Hasin : page-164)

और ऐसे दुआ करें 

अल्लाह  तेरा शुक्र और एहसान है की तूने हमें ये दिन दिखाया और हमें इस ख़ुशी व नेमत से नवाज़ा और हमें अपने हबीब सल्लल्लाहो अलैहि  वसल्लम की सुन्नत पर अमल करने की तौफ़ीक़ अता फर्माय ।

ए अल्लाह हमारी इस ख़ुशी को हमेशा इसी तरह कायम रख । हमें मेल मिलाप प्यार मोहब्बत के साथ ज़िन्दगी गुजरने की तौफ़ीक़ अता फार्मा। ऐ रब्बे क़ादिर हमें नेक फर्माबरदार औलाद अता फार्मा । आमीन  


(Gunyatuttalebin : jild-5,page-115)



Marriage First night DUA (Shaadi ki Pehli Raat Ki dua)

Hazrat Abdullah ibne Masud radiallahu ta'ala anhu farmate hai : Ek shaks ne bayaan kiya ki maine ek jawan ladki se nikah kar liya hai aur mujhe darr hai ki wo mujhe pasand nahi karegi. Hazrat Abdullah bin Masud ne farmaya : mohabbat ALLAH ki taraf se hoti hai aur nafrat shaitan ki taraf se. Jab tum biwi ke paas jao to sabse pahle use kaho ki wo tumhare piche 2 rakat namaz padhe. 

(Gunyatuttalebin : jild-5,page-115) 

Namaz aur fir uske baad duwa padh lene ke baad dulha dulhan palang par sukun se baith jaye fir uske baad dulha apni dulhan ki peshani ke thode baal apne sidhe haath me narmi ke saath mohabbat bhare andaz me pakde aur ye duwa padhe :
Allahumma inni as aluka min khaireh wa khairem jabalth alayhi wa auzoo beka min sharreh wa sharrem jabalth alayhi.
Tarjuma : Aye ALLAH mai tujhse iski (apni biwi ki) bhalai aur khairo barkat mangta hu aur uski fitari aadato ki bhalai aur teri panah chahta hu iski burai aur fitari aadato ki buraise.(Abu Dawood : jild-2,page-150, Hasne Hasin : page-164)

Tags: Dua For Married Couple, Dua for Marriage First Night



Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Number of Wives Permissible to Marry in Islam?

Number of Wives Permissible to Marry in Islam?

Allah Ta’ala states:

“And if you fear that you will not be just towards orphan girls, marry the women whom you like - two at a time, or three or four; then if you fear that you cannot keep two women equally then marry only one or the bond women you own; this is closer to your not doing injustice.” (Surah Nisaa Verse 3)

Critics of Islam, especially the western world and even some Muslims, who only consider those things acceptable and good which their minds and intellect can understand, continuously condemn the issue of the number of wives allowed in Islam. In light of this it is very beneficial and appropriate to briefly shed some light and present the reality on this issue.

1. This is not an order which is essential for every Muslim to act upon. It is merely permission that is granted.

2. This permission is not merely granted without conditions. Rather, very strict conditions have been placed on the person who wishes to act upon this permission.

3. All medical personnel (old and new) agree that the nature of men differs from the nature of women.

4. Sexual desire in men is much higher than in women. The obvious reason for this is that after sexual intercourse a woman has to go through many delicate stages – becoming pregnant, delivering the child, breast-feeding and caring for the child. All these stages keep her so busy that her sexual appetite is diminished but men do not have all these responsibilities.

5. More female than males are born in most countries. Additionally hundreds and thousands of men are killed
in wars and battles and therefore the population of women compared to men increases.

6. From the beginning of time, all those places that place a limit on the number of wives to one, are in essence giving permission to commit adultery. Even though this abominable act creates countless evils it is not considered a crime.

7. Is it more tolerable for a wife to accept another wife for her husband or a mistress? Consider the mental, spiritual, monetary and physical aspects of this.

8. Is it right for any self-respecting and honourable woman to be the owner of a home and have a husband who is responsible for her well-being and safety and that her children are considered legitimate and she is considered respectful in society? Or should she display her beauty to all who will look but no one is willing to neither be the father of her children nor take on any other responsibilities?

9. In spite of all their scientific successes, are Europe and America not alarmed at the increasing number of
illegitimate children being born and unwed mothers? (According to a U.N. report, in some European countries, the number of illegitimate children born is as high as 70% of all births). They have publically started stating that there is no way out of this predicament without following the laws of the Qur’an. (Zia-ul-Qur’an Vol 1 Pages 317-318)

Islamic / Muslim Festivals and Holiday 2019

Islamic Events and Holiday 2019

English Date Islamic Date
We have listed the important Islamic Festivals, Holidays and Events for the year 2019 as per the calender year 2019. These muslim religious holiday can vary as per the sighting of moon and the lunar calendar.
#Urs Khawjah Gharib Nawaz, Ajmer Sharif 14 March, 2019 - Thursday 6th Rajab 1440
#Lailat-ul-Meraj #Shab-e-meraj Night of Apr 3, 2019 - Wednesday 26-Rajab-1440
#Shabe-e-Barat April 20, 2019 - Saturday 14th Sha'baan 1440
#Start of Fasting Month (#Ramadan) May 7, 2019 - Tuesday 1st Ramadan 1440
#Jummat-ul-Wida 31 May 2019 - Friday Last Friday of Ramadan 1440
#Lailat-ul-Qadr (#Shab-E-Qadr) June 1, 2019 - Saturday 27 Ramadan 1440
#Eid-ul-Fitr June 5, 2019 - Saturday 1st Shawwal 1440
#Hajj August 11, 2019 - Sunday 9th Dhul-Hijjah 1440
#Eid-ul-Adaha #Bakrid August 12, 2019 - Wednesday 10th Dhul-Hijjah 1440
#Islamic New Year September 1, 2019 - Sunday 1st Muharram 1441
#Yaum al-Ashura September 10, 2019 - Tuesday 10th Muharram 1441
#Eid Milad-un-Nabi Nov 10, 2019 - Sunday 12th Rabi-al-Awwal 1441
#Urs Haji Ali Baba Mumbai 13 December, 2019 - Friday 16 Rabi Ul Akhir 1441
714th Urs Sharif Of Hazrat Khwaaja Syed Nizamuddin Aulia Mehboob-e-elahi Rahmatullah Alayh 16 December, 2019 - Monday 19 Rabi Ul Akhir 1441