Just as Almighty Allah has made some duties of the wife towards the husband, he has also made some duties of the husband towards his wife. To fulfill these duties is an obligation and means of great blessing.

Almighty Allah says in the Holy Quran, There are rights of the husband upon the wife just as there are rights of the wife upon the husband, with kindness.

The Holy Prophet (Sallahu Aliahi Wasalam) said, the best amongst you are those who are kind towards their wives. (Mishkaat Shareef Vol 2 Page 280)

It is also in the Hadith: No believing man should harbor any hatred and ill feeling for any believing women, for if any of hers actions seem bad, then there are also those things in her which are good. (Mishkaat Vol 2 page 280)

This Hadith means, that if a wife has some shortcomings in her, then it does mean that everything about her is not good. She definitely has some good qualities as well.

The husband should thus praise her good qualities and try to rectify her shortcomings.

1. It is an obligation upon every husband, to provide for her food, clothes, house and all other provisions. One must always think that she is a servant of Allah in my Nikah, and she has left her parents and everything else for me. She should thus be properly taken care of.

2. It is also necessary for the husband to fulfill his right as the husband towards his wife, in the sense of satisfying her womanly desires, so that she does not turn towards sin and adultery. This, thus means that the husband should not stay away from his wife for lengthy periods of time.

3. A man should not separate his bed from his wife without reason. Yes, if she acts contrary to his command or against the Islamic law, then he may do so. This however, should not be to cause her pain and torment, but to allow her to realise her wrong doing.

4.It is in the books of Law, that a husband may warn his wife (punish her) by separating his bed etc. if:

(a). She refuses to dress neatly and beautify herself for him

(b). Her husband desires her and she refuses without valid

(c). She does not take Ghusl after intimacy or after her menstrual periods etc.

(d). She leaves Namaaz or any other fardh Ibaadat without valid reason.

5. A man should never look at another woman with bad intention and should never praise the beauty of other women to his wife, and no wife should praise the beauty of another man to her husband.

6. The husband must correct the mistakes of his wife and if she does not accept, then he may be strict.

7. When going on a journey, the husband should inform his wife, and meet her with great love and comfort her before he leaves on a journey.

8. When the wife cooks him a meal, he should not criticize what she has made, but should eat it to please her. If there is something that he does not like he should tell her with great love and not mock or hurt her feelings.

9. If she becomes ill, then it is necessary for him to care and comfort her, so that she feels that he loves and cares for her.

10. He should have full faith and trust in his wife and she should have the same faith and trust in him. Both should not put false accusations on one another, as this leads to the breakup of the marriage and is a sinful act. The husband should also always be clean and dress well when with his wife. He should not embarrass her or shout and threaten her in the presence of others.

11. The husband should not shout at and scold his wife for petty issues and neither should the wife pick on him over petty issues.

12. If there is any dispute between the husband and the wife, they should try to resolve this by themselves with understanding, and if it is not resolved, then it should be put before the elders for advice. A man should never be hasty in giving Talaaq to his wife. He should let his anger subside before he makes any irrational decisions and then think with a calm mind. The Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said, amongst those things which are Halaal, the one most disliked by Allah is Talaaq. (Abu Dawood Vol 1 page 303)

13. If a person has more than one wife (not more than four), then he must be just with all of them and care for them equally. To take care of one and neglect the others is a sin. 

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