THE RIGHTS & DUTIES OF THE HUSBAND TOWARDS HIS WIFE IN ISLAM

Just as Almighty Allah has made some duties of the wife towards the husband, he has also made some duties of the husband towards his wife. To fulfill these duties is an obligation and means of great blessing.

Almighty Allah says in the Holy Quran, There are rights of the husband upon the wife just as there are rights of the wife upon the husband, with kindness.

The Holy Prophet (Sallahu Aliahi Wasalam) said, the best amongst you are those who are kind towards their wives. (Mishkaat Shareef Vol 2 Page 280)

It is also in the Hadith: No believing man should harbor any hatred and ill feeling for any believing women, for if any of hers actions seem bad, then there are also those things in her which are good. (Mishkaat Vol 2 page 280)

This Hadith means, that if a wife has some shortcomings in her, then it does mean that everything about her is not good. She definitely has some good qualities as well.

The husband should thus praise her good qualities and try to rectify her shortcomings.

1. It is an obligation upon every husband, to provide for her food, clothes, house and all other provisions. One must always think that she is a servant of Allah in my Nikah, and she has left her parents and everything else for me. She should thus be properly taken care of.

2. It is also necessary for the husband to fulfill his right as the husband towards his wife, in the sense of satisfying her womanly desires, so that she does not turn towards sin and adultery. This, thus means that the husband should not stay away from his wife for lengthy periods of time.

3. A man should not separate his bed from his wife without reason. Yes, if she acts contrary to his command or against the Islamic law, then he may do so. This however, should not be to cause her pain and torment, but to allow her to realise her wrong doing.

4.It is in the books of Law, that a husband may warn his wife (punish her) by separating his bed etc. if:

(a). She refuses to dress neatly and beautify herself for him

(b). Her husband desires her and she refuses without valid

(c). She does not take Ghusl after intimacy or after her menstrual periods etc.

(d). She leaves Namaaz or any other fardh Ibaadat without valid reason.

5. A man should never look at another woman with bad intention and should never praise the beauty of other women to his wife, and no wife should praise the beauty of another man to her husband.

6. The husband must correct the mistakes of his wife and if she does not accept, then he may be strict.

7. When going on a journey, the husband should inform his wife, and meet her with great love and comfort her before he leaves on a journey.

8. When the wife cooks him a meal, he should not criticize what she has made, but should eat it to please her. If there is something that he does not like he should tell her with great love and not mock or hurt her feelings.

9. If she becomes ill, then it is necessary for him to care and comfort her, so that she feels that he loves and cares for her.

10. He should have full faith and trust in his wife and she should have the same faith and trust in him. Both should not put false accusations on one another, as this leads to the breakup of the marriage and is a sinful act. The husband should also always be clean and dress well when with his wife. He should not embarrass her or shout and threaten her in the presence of others.

11. The husband should not shout at and scold his wife for petty issues and neither should the wife pick on him over petty issues.

12. If there is any dispute between the husband and the wife, they should try to resolve this by themselves with understanding, and if it is not resolved, then it should be put before the elders for advice. A man should never be hasty in giving Talaaq to his wife. He should let his anger subside before he makes any irrational decisions and then think with a calm mind. The Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said, amongst those things which are Halaal, the one most disliked by Allah is Talaaq. (Abu Dawood Vol 1 page 303)

13. If a person has more than one wife (not more than four), then he must be just with all of them and care for them equally. To take care of one and neglect the others is a sin. 

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THE RIGHTS & DUTIES OF THE WIFE TOWARDS HER HUSBAND

Once a girl becomes an adult, it is necessary for the parents to arrange for her marriage. When arranging for her marriage, be sure to choose a husband for her, who is a Sunni Sahihul Aqida and not and non-mazhab. Find someone who is a religious person, and one who is pious. Remember that Nikah is the Sunnah of the Prophet and a means of gaining piety and being protected from evil.

Almighty Allah has made man the Guardian over the wife. It is for this reason, that it is compulsory upon the wife to be obedient to her husband. Remember, that to please the husband is a great Ibaadat, and to disrespect him and be disobedient to him is a sin. The status of the husband is very exalted.

The Holy Prophet (Sallahu Aliahi Wasalam) said, If I had to command sajdah (prostration) for anyone but Allah, then I would have commanded the women to make sajdah to their husbands. (Mishkaat Shareef Vol.2 Pg.281)

The Holy Prophet (Sallahu Aliahi Wasalam) also said, That woman who passes away from this world in this way, that her husband was pleased with her, then she will enter into Jannat.

1. The wife should not leave the home to go anywhere without the permission of her husband.

 2. In the absence of the husband, the wife should not give any belongings of her husband to any person. In his absence, it is an obligation upon her to protect all his belongings, and without his permission, she should not allow any person into the home.

3. A women should never do any such action that will cause the husband to become upset.

4. To care and educate the children in the absence of the husband is also a great duty for her.

5. It is necessary for her to keep herself pure and clean at all times, always dressing neatly and looking presentable, so that her husband may be pleased when he looks at her.

6. It is necessary for every wife to understand the manner and habits of her husband, in other words, to know his likes and dislikes and not to act contrary to these.

7. It is from her duties not to become angry when he says anything to her and not to argue or backtalk with him. Rather she should comfort and calm him if he is upset.

8. She should not be demanding and should try her best to live in accordance with his income and not beyond his means. She should not be wasteful with his wealth.

9. As long as her in laws are alive, it is necessary for her to respect them. Never disappoint your husband’s parents.

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DESTRUCTIVENESS OF ADULTERY AND HOMOSEXUALITY IN THE LIGHT OF THE HADITH

Hazrat Abu Hurairah (radi Allahu anhuma)  narrated that the Holy Prophet (Salllahu Alaihi Wa Salam)  is reported to have said, “When an adulterer commits adultery, then at that time he is not a momin.” (In other words he is deprived of the qualities of a momin) (Bukhari Shareef)

Hazrat Amr ibnil A’as (radi Allahu anhuma) says, “I heard the Holy Prophet (Salllahu Alaihi Wa Salam) saying that any nation in which adultery becomes common, will be faced with drought and that nation in which bribery becomes common, then such a nation will always be locked in the apprehension and fear of their enemies.” (Mishkaat Shareef)

Hazrat Jaabir (radi Allahu anhuma)  reports that a certain man committed adultery with a certain female, so the Prophet (Salllahu Alaihi Wa Salam) commanded him to be lashed. It was then mentioned that he was married, so the Prophet (Salllahu Alaihi Wa Salam) ordered that he be stoned to death. (Abu Dawood)

 It is reported on the authority of Hazrat Ibn Abbas (radi Allahu anhuma) and Hazrat Abu Hurairah (radi Allahu anhuma). One who does what the people of Lut did (in other words they committed acts of sodomy), then such persons are cursed. (Zareen)

It is also narrated by the same, from Hazrat Ibn Abbas (radi Allahu anhuma) that Hazrat Ali (radi Allahu anhuma) burnt both the one who did such an action of sodomy and the one who allowed such an action and Hazrat Abu Bakr Siddique (radi Allahu anhuma) ordered a wall to be dropped on top of them.

 Note: If this were a Muslim country and Islamic Laws prevailed, then the adulterer and adulteress would both be lashed or stoned to death. In other words they would be pelted until they died. But in this time (as we are not in a Muslim Country), the entire Muslim community should completely boycott those involved in adulterous relationships.

We should stop all communications with such people. In other words we should not eat, drink, sit, walk, make salaam or have any other Islamic relationship with them, until such time that they sincerely make tauba (repent) and abstain from this sinful action in the future.

Those Muslim who do not do this and continue to associate with such sinful persons, they too are sinful. As for those who have homosexual relationships and are involved in sodomy, then the Hadith is clear about the law that is passed on them, but in this time as we are not in an Islamic country, we should boycott such people and have no relationship with them whatsoever.

We should be so hard upon them and shun them to such an extent that they may realize their wrong and repent and abstain from this cursed and sinful behavior. If Muslims remain silent over this and they condone this and let other Muslims who are involved in this continue associating with them etc. then they too are sinful. We should fear the wrath of Allah and look back in history to nations who have been completed destroyed due to such evil practices. 

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Woman wearing Masculine Clothes is deprived of Heaven

It is stated in a Hadith that the woman who adopts masculine styles will be deprived of Heaven. The woman who wears masculine clothes, shoes, or has a masculine hairstyle also deserves the same punishment. Often, this issue is not considered when dressing children.

(Allah forbid) sometimes, the boys are made to wear the dress of girls making them look like girls and similarly, girls are made to wear shirts & trousers along with a hat making them look like boys. It is a sin to get your daughters wear boyish dress or masculine hairstyle.

Henna can be applied on the palms and feet of the girls only, applying henna on the hands or feet of boys is a sin. (Raddul-muhtar v9, p522, Dar-ul-kutubul Ilmiyya Beirut) Do not dress your children in clothes which have pictures of living things on them. Do not apply nail polish on children's nails and the children’s mother should never also do so because wudu & ghusl will not be complete.

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The whole gathering accepted Islam

One day Hadhrat Bayazid Bastami rahmatullah alayhi while in meditation, saw himself in a synagogue dressed as a Jew. At first he was confused, but when he kept on seeing the same vision over and over again, he decided to enact it. So, he dressed himself as a Jew and went to their synagogue.

When the Jews and their scholars were present, their chief Rabbi stood up to speak. But when he stood up, his tongue became stuck and he could not talk. After he had been standing quietly for some time, the Jews started to complain. The Rabbi said, "In this gathering there is a follower of the Prophet Muhammed (sallalahu alayhi wassalam) and I cannot speak because he has come to examine us."

On hearing this, their anger raged like wildfire and they asked the Rabbi to give them permission to kill this follower of the Prophet Muhammad (sallalahu alayhi wassalam). The Rabbi replied, "He cannot be killed without proof, so we must talk to him peacefully and respectfully and then we can decide."

The Rabbi then said, "Oh follower of Muhammad (sallalahu alayhi wassalam). For the sake of your Prophet please stand up in your place. If you can remove our doubt about Islam then we shall accept Islam, but if you can't, then we shall kill you." On hearing this, Hadhrat Bayazid rahmatullah alayhi stood up and gave permission for them to question him.

Rabbi: What is one and not two?
Bayazid: Allah.

Rabbi: What is two and not three?
Bayazid: Night and day.
[Qur'aan chapter 17 verse 12:
"And we made night and day two examples."]

Rabbi: What is three and not four?
Bayazid: The Throne, Chair, and the Pen of Allah.

Rabbi: What is four and not five?
Bayazid: The Torah, Bible, Psalms, and the Qur'aan.

Rabbi: What is five and not six?
Bayazid: The five compulsory Prayers.

Rabbi: What is six and not seven?
Bayazid: The six days in which the Earth, the sky, and whatever is in between them was created.
[Qur'aan chapter 50 verse 38:
"And we created the Sky and the Earth and whatever is between them in six days"]

Rabbi: What is seven and not eight?
Bayazid: The seven skies.
[Qur'aan chapter 67 verse 3,
"Who created the seven skies layer upon layer!"]

Rabbi: What is eight and not nine?
Bayazid: The bearers of the throne of Allah.
[Quraan chapter 69 verse 17:
"And they will lift their Lord's throne on themselves on that day, eight persons. "]

Rabbi: What is nine and not ten?
Bayazid: The villagers of Hadhrat Salih peace be upon him in which the mischief mongers lived.
[Qur'aan chapter 27 Verse 48:
"And in that city there were nine persons who created mischief on the Earth, and they didn't amend. "]

Rabbi: What is ten and not eleven?
Bayazid: The person who performs a minor pilgrimage along with the major one and doesn't have the capacity to sacrifice an animal, he has to keep ten fasts.
[Qur'aan chapter 2 verse 196:
"So keep the three Haj days and seven fasts when you return".]

Rabbi: What is eleven, twelve and thirteen things which Allah has mentioned?
Bayazid: Hadhrat Yusuf had eleven brothers. The twelve months in a year,
[Qur'aan chapter 9 verse 36: "The number of months, with Allah , is twelve months".]
Hadhrat Yusuf saw thirteen things prostrating to him.
[Qur'aan chapter 12 verse 4: "I saw in a dream eleven stars, the sun and the moon, I saw them (for my sake) prostrating (to me)".]

Rabbi: Which is that nation which lied and went in to paradise and which is that nation which said the truth and entered hell?
Bayazid: Hadhrat Yusuf's brothers lied but they went to paradise.
[Qur'aan chapter 12 verse 17: "Oh father! We went out to run and we left Yusuf with our belongings, then he was eaten by the wolf."]
The contradiction between the Christians and the Jews was true but they went to hell.
[Qur'aan chapter 2 verse 113: "And the Jews said that the Christians are not on any path, and the Christians said that the Jews are not on any path, even though they all read the book."]

Rabbi: What is that thing which has no soul nor any connection with breathing, yet it breathes?
Bayazid: It is the dawn, for it has no soul but it still breathes.
[Qur'aan Chapter 81 verse 18: "And the morning, when it breathes."]

Rabbi: What are those fourteen things to which Allah talks with honour?
Bayazid: The seven earths and the seven skies,
[Qur'aan chapter 41 verse 11: Then He said to it and to the Earth, come both of you with happiness or hardly, They said we will come happily.]

Rabbi: Which is that grave which moves the person in it around?
Bayazid: The fish of Hadhrat Yunus alayhi salaam.
[Qur'aan chapter 37 verse 142: "Then the fish took him as a morsel".]


Rabbi: Which is that water which neither came up from the earth nor down from the sky?
Bayazid: The water which Hadhrat Sulaiman alayhi salaam sent to Bilqis, Queen of Sheeba, for it was the sweat of a horse.


Rabbi: What are those four things which had no father nor were born from a mother's stomach?
Bayazid: The sheep of Hadhrat Ismail, the she camel of Hadhrat Salih, Hadhrat Adam and our mother Eve alayhi salaam.

Rabbi: Whose blood flowed first on the Earth?
Bayazid: It was Habil's (Abel) when Qabil (Cain) killed him.

Rabbi: What is that thing which Allah created and then bought?
Bayazid: A believers soul.
[Qur'aan chapter 9 verse 11: "Allah bought from the Muslim's their souls."]

Rabbi: What is that voice which Allah created and then spoke ill of?
Bayazid: The donkey's voice.
[Qur'aan chapter 31 verse 19: "Without doubt the worse voice is of a donkey."]

Rabbi: What is that creation that Allah created and from it's greatness created fear?
Bayazid: Women's scheming.
[Qur'aan chapter 12 verse 28: "Truly, mighty is your scheming."

Rabbi: What is that thing that Allah created and then asked about?
Bayazid: The staff of Hadhrat Musa.
[Qur'aan Chapter 20 verse 17: "And what is that in your right hand, Oh Musa? He said "This is my staff."]

Rabbi: Who are the most pious of the women and what are the blessed rivers?
Bayazid: The most pious women are Hadhrat Eve, Hadhrat Khadija, Hazart Aisha and Hadhrat Fatima. The most blessed rivers are the Oxus, Simwon, Tigris, Euphrates and Nile.

Rabbi: Which is the most blessed mountain and the most blessed animal?
Bayazid: Mount Toor in Makkah and the horse.

Rabbi: Which is the best of all months and the best of all nights?
Bayazid: The month of Ramdhan and the Night of Power.
[Qur'aan Chapter 2 verse 185: "The month of Ramdhan in which the Qur'aan was revealed."
Qur'aan chapter 97 verse 3: "The night of power is better than a thousand months."]

Rabbi: There is a tree which has twelve twigs, each twig has thirty leaves, and each leaf has five fruits, two in the sun and three in the shade. What is the meaning of this tree?
Bayazid: The tree means one year, the twigs mean the twelve months, the leaves represent the thirty days, and the fruits are the daily prayers, two of which are prayed in the day and the remaining three which are prayed at dawn, at dusk, and in the night time.

Rabbi: What is that thing that circled around the Ka'abah in Makkah even though it had no soul?
Bayazid: The boat of Hadhrat Nuh alayhi salaam. In the time of the flood it arrived in Arabia and circled around the Ka'abah.

Rabbi: How many prophets did Allah send as Messengers?
Bayazid: Only Allah knows, but in narrations it is said that Allah created 126,000 prophets from which 313 were Messengers.

Rabbi: What are those four things whose roots are one but their colours and tastes are different?
Bayazid: Eyes, ears, mouth and nose.
The wetness of the eye are sour, the wetness of the ears is acid, that of the noses is also acid and the wetness of the mouth is sweet.

Rabbi: What is the voice of the donkey called?
Bayazid: It is the curse on the tax takers.

Rabbi: What is the voice of the dog called?
Bayazid: Doom on the dwellers of Hell by the anger of Allah.

Rabbi: What is the remembrance of the ox?
Bayazid: SubhanAllah wa bihamdihi, subhanAllah il adheem.

Rabbi: What is the remembrance of the camel?
Bayazid: HasbunAllahu wa ni'mal wakeel.

Rabbi: What is the remembrance of the peacock?
Bayazid: Huwal wadud, dhul 'arsh il-adheem.

Rabbi: What is the beautiful recitation of the nightingale?
Bayazid: So remember the pure Allah when it is morning and evening.

Rabbi: What is that thing which Allah sent revelation on, but it was not human, Jinn or Angel?
Bayazid: The honey bee.
[Qur'aan chapter 16 verse 68:
"And your lord gave order to the honey bee."]


After this the Rabbi couldn't ask any more questions and became quiet. Hadhrat Bayazid rahmatullah alayhi said, "Now you give me the answer to my one question. What is the key to paradise?" The Rabbi replied, "If I give the answer to this question, this gathering will kill me."

The gathering shouted in one voice "We shall not do anything. Now tell us the true answer!"

The Rabbi then said, "Listen! the key to paradise is:

There is no God worthy of worship except Allah and Muhammad peace be upon him is His Messenger!"

On hearing this the whole gathering accepted Islam and Hadhrat Bayazid rahmatullah alayhi returned giving thanks to Allah.

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