THE RIGHTS & DUTIES OF THE HUSBAND TOWARDS HIS WIFE IN ISLAM

Just as Almighty Allah has made some duties of the wife towards the husband, he has also made some duties of the husband towards his wife. To fulfill these duties is an obligation and means of great blessing.

Almighty Allah says in the Holy Quran, There are rights of the husband upon the wife just as there are rights of the wife upon the husband, with kindness.

The Holy Prophet (Sallahu Aliahi Wasalam) said, the best amongst you are those who are kind towards their wives. (Mishkaat Shareef Vol 2 Page 280)

It is also in the Hadith: No believing man should harbor any hatred and ill feeling for any believing women, for if any of hers actions seem bad, then there are also those things in her which are good. (Mishkaat Vol 2 page 280)

This Hadith means, that if a wife has some shortcomings in her, then it does mean that everything about her is not good. She definitely has some good qualities as well.

The husband should thus praise her good qualities and try to rectify her shortcomings.

1. It is an obligation upon every husband, to provide for her food, clothes, house and all other provisions. One must always think that she is a servant of Allah in my Nikah, and she has left her parents and everything else for me. She should thus be properly taken care of.

2. It is also necessary for the husband to fulfill his right as the husband towards his wife, in the sense of satisfying her womanly desires, so that she does not turn towards sin and adultery. This, thus means that the husband should not stay away from his wife for lengthy periods of time.

3. A man should not separate his bed from his wife without reason. Yes, if she acts contrary to his command or against the Islamic law, then he may do so. This however, should not be to cause her pain and torment, but to allow her to realise her wrong doing.

4.It is in the books of Law, that a husband may warn his wife (punish her) by separating his bed etc. if:

(a). She refuses to dress neatly and beautify herself for him

(b). Her husband desires her and she refuses without valid

(c). She does not take Ghusl after intimacy or after her menstrual periods etc.

(d). She leaves Namaaz or any other fardh Ibaadat without valid reason.

5. A man should never look at another woman with bad intention and should never praise the beauty of other women to his wife, and no wife should praise the beauty of another man to her husband.

6. The husband must correct the mistakes of his wife and if she does not accept, then he may be strict.

7. When going on a journey, the husband should inform his wife, and meet her with great love and comfort her before he leaves on a journey.

8. When the wife cooks him a meal, he should not criticize what she has made, but should eat it to please her. If there is something that he does not like he should tell her with great love and not mock or hurt her feelings.

9. If she becomes ill, then it is necessary for him to care and comfort her, so that she feels that he loves and cares for her.

10. He should have full faith and trust in his wife and she should have the same faith and trust in him. Both should not put false accusations on one another, as this leads to the breakup of the marriage and is a sinful act. The husband should also always be clean and dress well when with his wife. He should not embarrass her or shout and threaten her in the presence of others.

11. The husband should not shout at and scold his wife for petty issues and neither should the wife pick on him over petty issues.

12. If there is any dispute between the husband and the wife, they should try to resolve this by themselves with understanding, and if it is not resolved, then it should be put before the elders for advice. A man should never be hasty in giving Talaaq to his wife. He should let his anger subside before he makes any irrational decisions and then think with a calm mind. The Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said, amongst those things which are Halaal, the one most disliked by Allah is Talaaq. (Abu Dawood Vol 1 page 303)

13. If a person has more than one wife (not more than four), then he must be just with all of them and care for them equally. To take care of one and neglect the others is a sin. 

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DESTRUCTIVENESS OF ADULTERY AND HOMOSEXUALITY IN THE LIGHT OF THE HADITH

Hazrat Abu Hurairah (radi Allahu anhuma)  narrated that the Holy Prophet (Salllahu Alaihi Wa Salam)  is reported to have said, “When an adulterer commits adultery, then at that time he is not a momin.” (In other words he is deprived of the qualities of a momin) (Bukhari Shareef)

Hazrat Amr ibnil A’as (radi Allahu anhuma) says, “I heard the Holy Prophet (Salllahu Alaihi Wa Salam) saying that any nation in which adultery becomes common, will be faced with drought and that nation in which bribery becomes common, then such a nation will always be locked in the apprehension and fear of their enemies.” (Mishkaat Shareef)

Hazrat Jaabir (radi Allahu anhuma)  reports that a certain man committed adultery with a certain female, so the Prophet (Salllahu Alaihi Wa Salam) commanded him to be lashed. It was then mentioned that he was married, so the Prophet (Salllahu Alaihi Wa Salam) ordered that he be stoned to death. (Abu Dawood)

 It is reported on the authority of Hazrat Ibn Abbas (radi Allahu anhuma) and Hazrat Abu Hurairah (radi Allahu anhuma). One who does what the people of Lut did (in other words they committed acts of sodomy), then such persons are cursed. (Zareen)

It is also narrated by the same, from Hazrat Ibn Abbas (radi Allahu anhuma) that Hazrat Ali (radi Allahu anhuma) burnt both the one who did such an action of sodomy and the one who allowed such an action and Hazrat Abu Bakr Siddique (radi Allahu anhuma) ordered a wall to be dropped on top of them.

 Note: If this were a Muslim country and Islamic Laws prevailed, then the adulterer and adulteress would both be lashed or stoned to death. In other words they would be pelted until they died. But in this time (as we are not in a Muslim Country), the entire Muslim community should completely boycott those involved in adulterous relationships.

We should stop all communications with such people. In other words we should not eat, drink, sit, walk, make salaam or have any other Islamic relationship with them, until such time that they sincerely make tauba (repent) and abstain from this sinful action in the future.

Those Muslim who do not do this and continue to associate with such sinful persons, they too are sinful. As for those who have homosexual relationships and are involved in sodomy, then the Hadith is clear about the law that is passed on them, but in this time as we are not in an Islamic country, we should boycott such people and have no relationship with them whatsoever.

We should be so hard upon them and shun them to such an extent that they may realize their wrong and repent and abstain from this cursed and sinful behavior. If Muslims remain silent over this and they condone this and let other Muslims who are involved in this continue associating with them etc. then they too are sinful. We should fear the wrath of Allah and look back in history to nations who have been completed destroyed due to such evil practices. 

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The three states of contempt of a scholar and rulings pertaining to it under the Noble Islamic law

Explaining the three states of contempt of a scholar and rulings pertaining to it under the Noble Islamic law, AlaHadrat ash-Shah Imam Ahmad Rida Khan (Alayhir Rahmah) has stated in Fatawa Radawiyyah:

1. If a person speaks ill about a religious scholar because he is a scholar, then the person is an absolute Kafir.

2. If the person considers it an obligation to respect the scholars because of their religious knowledge, but speaks ill of them because of some worldly feud or curses him out or disgraces him, then he is Fasiq and Fajir.

3. If he backbites the scholar without any reason, then he has a disease of the heart and is internally evil and there is a fear that he might fall into Kufr because of his unwarranted malice against religious scholars. It is stated in Khulasat al-Fatawa, whoever hates an Islamic scholar without any legitimate reason, then that person has the fear of falling into realm of disbelief.

Fatawa Radawiyyah, Vol. 21, Page 129

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